I’ve been speaking with my clients a lot over these past few weeks about forgiveness. We’ve been exploring what forgiveness means to each of us, and what the true power of forgiveness really is.

So many women who go through divorce don’t feel their ex deserves to be forgiven. They feel they’ve been wronged so deeply and they their ex hasn’t earned their forgiveness. And, you know, it makes total sense that they’d feel this way. If we believe that forgiveness is the same as forgetting, condoning or excusing past actions, reconciliation, or a sign of weakness, then no wonder we have a hard time forgiving someone when we’ve been hurt so deeply.

The truth is that forgiveness is usually a challenging process that takes time and effort. Deciding to pursue the goal of forgiveness is usually where most people start their journey of letting go of negative thoughts, feelings and actions toward the person who has wronged them. The goal is to transform all that negativity into more positive thoughts, feelings and actions.

But, why?

Forgiveness is for your benefit. Besides being able to remove the emotional baggage of your pain, forgiveness has been proven to help your physical, mental, and spiritual well-being. Forgiveness has been proven in studies to be associated with fewer physical ailments, less fatigue, and even better sleep. It’s associated with decreased depression and increased feelings of being connected with a higher being.

One of the biggest questions you can ask yourself is if not forgiving someone is punishing them or you? Considering the consequences you’ve experienced by not forgiving can help you decide if you’re ready to begin your forgiveness journey.

If you’re not ready to begin your journey to forgiveness, that’s ok. Take the time to process your feelings. You’re exactly where you’re supposed to be.

If you are ready to begin, I’d love the opportunity to work with you. Click here to book a no-obligation free call with me to strategize how you can get on the road to forgiveness and recovery.